Tuesday, 18 February 2014

Why Rejection Isn't Always A Bad Thing

When most people think of rejection, they take it personally. We tend to look internally at ourselves and try to find the flaw that must have been the cause of the bad news.

When we are turned down for a job opportunity.

When we are turned down for a date.

Even when we receive rejection letters (as I did earlier!)

The truth is, it happens to us all. Even to the people who are now incredibly successful.

Take J K Rowling. She was rejected twelve times for her book (ever heard of Harry Potter and The Philosopher's Stone?) until her lucky break came in the form of an editor's little girl. She read the first three chapters and begged her father to let her read the rest of the book. J K Rowling had her chance but not without the final warning from the editor to 'get a day job as she had little chance of making money in children's books'.

Image from www.telegraph.co.uk
Not bad, eh?

Rejection is a part of life but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's 'game over'. In fact, the majority of the time, it is just a step closer to success.

So, you've been turned down for a job? But, you know what? It is inevitable that you will get one.

You are turned down for a date? Who hasn't? But how many times have you heard of people finally meeting their perfect partner?

Received a rejection letter? Look at J K Rowling!

Imagine life's challenges as a wide, fast flowing river. Rejection makes up the stepping stones that help you to make your way to success which is on the other side.
With each rejection- with each step- you can learn something, whether that be how to better present yourself or how to improve on certain things, which can gradually help you to reach your goal.

Rejection helps us. Instead of taking it personally, think on what could have been done differently in an objective way. It can be difficult but try to step away and watch the scene, whether that be an interview or a conversation, as though you are a third party.

And if you can't find anything? It's their loss- you did the best you could and that's all you can do.

Take a moment to think back on a time where you have been rejected and see if you can find how it's benefitted you further down the line.

Thought of something? Let me know below!