Wednesday, 5 March 2014

Accepting When It's Time To Move On

It's not easy and, to be honest, the majority of the time that you try it will hurt like hell but to progress with our lives, to have a positive outlook for the future we have to say goodbye to certain parts of the past.

Letting go isn't easy. We can become unwilling to see beyond the blinkers of the 'good old days' where things were great but are now souring. Alternatively, we use the things that have a negative impact on our lives as a way of shielding ourselves from more, potential, harm. We hide from the reality that it's time to let go.

Memories, people, situations (etc.) can cloud that part of our brain that helps us to think logically and makes us unable to see the problems they cause. We become accustomed to having these things around us and, in a way, we grudgingly accept that they are just a part of our lives that we have to live with (even if they not particularly healthy or good for us.)
Such as having a person in your life that you have had good experiences with but they take you for granted or rarely bother to get in touch.
Or, if you have a difficult situation you feel tied into out of obligation and are having difficulty pulling away to stop yourself being sucked in.

We can also feel the same way over things that have happened to us or tough experiences we have gone through. It becomes easy to use these feelings of hurt, anger or disappointment to 'pin point' where things went wrong or to supply excuses for why we haven't gone for new opportunities or taken new chances.
  • "It's his fault that I'm like this."
  • "If she hadn't done that I would be much more confident."
  • If it wasn't down to this I would have done that."
But, you know what? Holding onto the past isn't good for us. What's more, using that past as a way for explaining our lack of action for the future is just down right self-sabotage.

When it comes to this, when you're stuck in a place you can't get out of, whether that be socially or emotionally, it's time to let go.

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I cannot stress this enough. When I say to move on I do not mean to stick your head in the sand and act like everything is perfect, I mean that you need to face the issue head on, accept it and start to release it.

Forget what hurt you in the past but never forget what it taught you.

Read that again.

In life, we live and learn. We make mistakes, we get hurt but nine times out of ten we will pick ourselves back up and carry on. Every single one of us has been hurt one way or the other but all of us are finding a way to look forward.

Think about what you have done. Don't think of the past but think of what you're doing with your life right now.
  • Do you have a job?
  • Are you independent?
  • Are you supporting yourself?
  • Do you have friends?
  • Do you own your own things?
  • Do you feel really passionate about something and are you following that passion?
Now look at the answers to those questions. Do you see how much you have progressed from that negativity in your life? Do you see where you could be if you take that brave step to walk away, to put that negativity firmly behind you?

Sometimes, we just need to look at how far we've come to see what we're capable of.

So, is it time for you to move on?