Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Why Happiness Needs To Be Recognised

I wouldn't say that I want a lot from life, maybe a loving relationship and to feel secure- but my main focus is just to be happy in both myself and where I am in life.

That's it.

It's this kind of response that surprises people. They get this mystified look in their eyes as though I've missed something vitally important before the inevitable line of questioning emerges:

"Yes but what do you want to do?"

"Don't you want to be successful?"

"What are you career aspirations?"

Or, as previously mentioned, during interviews: "Where do you see yourself in five years time?"

Why is it that we are expected to have our future happiness- our future sense of self- defined by our academic or career based successes and aspirations?

What ever happened to the simple joys in life? The joy of having family near or knowing that you've put a smile on someone's face?

People seem to become so consumed with where they should be headed in life, on where they should be striving towards, they seem to lose the concept of contentment entirely. Go onto Google and type in 'how to be happy' and you'll see what I mean.

Why is it that our own happiness gets put on the back burner? It's because we put everything else before it- we get our priorities wrong. We forget that we already can already experience it if we start to be grateful for what we already have.

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In the words of Albert Camus: 'What is happiness but the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?'
Why is it that happiness has to be conditional? Why is it that we can only achieve happiness, that feeling of contentment... right after we've done this.

Why not start now? You more than have the potential! Why not just embrace what you have around you right this moment- whether it be pets, family, friends or maybe even just characters inside your head.

We may not feel it sometimes but we have so much to be thankful for already and yet we seem to just steamroll over what they are to reach that ultimate distant goal of  'perfection'. 

A great way to become happier is to have a more positive attitude so here's a challenge for the rest of the week: Everyday I want you to list one thing that is in your life that makes you happy and then spend time doing it or appreciating it. It can be anything- the only rule is that it has to be something different each day.
 
Life is short- there's no escaping that- so to waste so much energy and stress on seeking for that moment of bliss that you are sure is waiting around the corner is just pointless. You can grasp it now, you just need to acknowledge what you have already achieved.