It can also be argued that some people had their achievements celebrated so much that they have become over confident and blinded to areas that they need to improve on. Whatever the reason, a lot of people cannot get the balance right leading to either arrogance or 'conditional pride' which mostly takes on the form of, "I'm good at _____, nowhere near as good as ________ but OK." or "I guess I'm kind of__________________ but I'm not sure."
In regards to people who are self conscious, they- unfortunately- have no such conditions when it comes to pointing out areas where they may be lacking. How many times have you heard people say (including ourselves!) "I'm rubbish at _____________." or "I'm really bad at_________."?
Unfortunately, we tend to hear these sentences a lot more, which brings us nothing but pessimism and an unhealthy perspective of ourselves.
I'm writing this post with the focus on those of us who are quick to put ourselves down and to brush off compliments.
What is so bad about admitting that we're good at something or that there is something about ourselves that we like? The world will not end, we will not be struck down by lightening by accepting that there are aspects of ourselves that we think are pretty damn good. To admit our strengths- to hold our hands up and say, 'You know what? I am pretty good at this.' isn't bad. It's not arrogant, in fact it's a sign of confidence and self awareness.
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List three qualities about yourself that you really like. This can be anything from personality traits to appearance to any particular skills or talents that you may have. Now out loud- yes out loud (whisper it if you have to) repeat after me, filling in the blanks as you go:
- I am good at __________________.
- One thing I like about myself is___________________.
- As a person, I am really ______________________.
Notice how things are exactly the same as they were before? After saying those words, the weather is still dreary as always here in Britain, I'm still typing and nothing dreadful has happened. In fact, the only thing that I would say has changed is the fact that I have acknowledged three things about myself that I can feel good about. In case you're wondering I went for:
- I am good at writing.
- One thing I like about myself is that I am approachable.
- As a person, I am really friendly.
What three things did you choose? Get in touch and let me know!