Monday, 25 August 2014

How To Be Respected

A lot of people believe that to be respected you need to be feared. They believe that you have to have this overwhelming, overbearing presence so that people have no choice but to allow you to have a voice.


The truth is, you don't need to take such drastic action.


To be respected, first you need to respect yourself.


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It sounds like a given, I know, but you would be amazed at the difference it can make.


Many of you may already feel as though you have respect for yourself. Some of you may feel as though you have the respect of others, which is obviously fantastic, but let me ask you this:

  • Do you have that one person in your life that you are always making excuses for?

  • Do you have someone in your life who is constantly letting you down but you are constantly forgiving them?
  • Do you have a situation that you have happening in your life that you are begrudgingly putting up with?
Still sure that you are respecting yourself?


The funny thing about the way that we socialise with others is that we train them how to treat us.

That person who you keep on making excuses for? You're teaching them that, no matter what they do to you, they're covered.

That person you keep on forgiving? You're teaching them that they don't need to give a sincere apology- and you can sure as hell bet that the situation you're putting up with isn't going to go away.


Maybe this is why people feel the need to be aggressive to get respect. Maybe they feel the need to act that way so that people won't dare to take advantage of them and give them the illusion of respect.


You have to earn respect and the first step of that is to respect yourself.


So put your foot down once in a while, yet don't be rude and purposefully abrupt, and make sure that people treat you in the way that you deserve to be treated.


To earn people's respect, first you need to respect yourself and once people see that you do, then they will respect you for it.