OK, so I can imagine what you're probably thinking. Mary, what the blazes are you going on about this time? How my happiness be down solely to me?
Well, dear reader, it is. The funny thing about happiness is that it is a state of mind rather than a result of circumstances.
Think of the last time that you were happy. You were most likely smiling, feeling as light as a feather, maybe even doing the cha cha inside of your head. You felt good. The world was bright and everything was looking spectacular. Think back on that feeling, try to remember the elation that you felt and then answer me this.
Why not allow yourself that feeling more often?
But surely it can't be that simple can it? Well, why not? Why can't it be that simple? If happiness is a state of mind then why not allow ourselves to indulge in it?
Why not allow ourselves to be happy?
Now, I know what you're thinking: yeah, how's that going to happen? Well, it's pretty simple if you thing of it in a certain way.
Every decision that you have ever made has brought you to this point in your life.
So, in effect, every decision has led you to your current state of mind and, as such, every future decision can influence how you see the world.
Take this as an example, if you make the decision to make a change in your life- to get rid of the negativity and stress that you suffer with, then you are making a decision to have a much happier outlook on your future. However, if you decide to 'put up' with how things are, you are allowing yourself to be deprived of the happiness that is out there for the taking.
Do you see where I am going with this?
You choose to be happy by actively making the effort to adapt how you see the world. You are the one who is solely responsible for how you see the world.
You can be happy. You can get rid of the negativity and upset in your life.
All you need to do is try.
I'm not saying that it is going to be easy- far from it in fact- but if you adopt a positive attitude and stick with it, if you work hard towards what you really want instead of 'making do', then you will get there.
So go on, take responsibility of your own wellbeing. Allow yourself the be happy- you deserve it.