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So how do we know what advice is right to follow? It's not easy but there are a few tips that may help.
1) Follow your gut feeling!
I don't have enough words to express how much I believe in this. Before you do anything, before you go and ask anyone for advice, listen to your gut feeling. More often than not it will be the right call and gives you a clear idea of what to do before messy emotions or feelings cloud up the issue.
2) Only ask for advice from a handful of people- if that!
If you ask too many people all you will manage to achieve is more stress and confusion. You will be filled with so much conflicting advice you'll struggle to deal with the situation at all!
3) Think carefully if the people you are asking may have an ulterior motive.
I know, it sounds very suspicious and paranoid but it's something that needs to be considered. An example of this was when I was in sixth form and unsure of whether I should go to university. I asked a few teachers for help at the time but came across problems when some I had approached wouldn't give me constructive advice due to pressure from their 'higher ups' to get as many students as possible to go to uni to boost numbers.
4) Remember that sometimes the advice that we don't like can be the best advice for us.
Sometimes when we ask for advice it's because we want someone to reassure us that we should do something that we may wish to do. Yet, sometimes- only sometimes, that piece of advice (which we know makes sense but don't want to accept) is the one that we should be listening to. How do you know it's right? Listen to your gut.
5) Finally, imagine that you are giving advice to a friend who was in your situation.
Imagine that your friend was explaining to you the problem they were having and why they were struggling to solve it. What would you say to them? You may just solve your problem!
I hope this helps the next time that you're struggling to find a solution. What's the best piece of advice you've given? How do you solve problems? Let me know!