Sunday, 5 October 2014

So, you think that you're being an imposter...

Have you ever been in that situation where you feel like you don't deserve to be in the position you're in and you're just waiting for someone to realise and take that position away? Maybe when starting a new job or being given a big new responsibility?


It's not very nice, is it? Kind of feels like that dream you get where you're on a stage in front of a tonne of people but you don't know your lines.


You feel like a fraud.


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I'm about to let you into a little secret though, you ready for this? You can't tell anyone else.


You're not the only one who's ever felt like that.


That sinking feeling you get in your stomach when your boss asks you to do something unfamiliar a couple of days into a new job... totally normal.


The irrepressible fear that you get when you friend/ sibling asks you to be their best man and write a speech... totally normal/


Having a book/ poem/ piece of writing that you've published be well received, leaving you wondering what they could have seen... yep, you guessed it, totally normal.


In fact, chances are that the people around you- whether that be in an office, a shop etc- have felt, or are feeling, the exact same way.


Why is it that we feel this way, then? Why are so many people are waiting to be 'caught out'?


It's a natural reaction to feel insecure in these situations but partly I think it's our minds way of keeping us in check, like it's the brains way of saying, "OK, stop now before you get too cocky.". While we do need a reality check every now and then to keep us in line, sometimes it can be more of a hindrance than a help but when we've earned or proven ourselves to be given that chance, that job, that responsibility, we should revel in it.


Next time you find yourself suffering from 'Imposter Syndrome' think of this: someone clearly thought that you deserved that recognition or that position. Someone- whether that's your boss, your friend or your audience- thought you should have that place.


You're not an imposter, you're exactly where you're meant to be.