Sunday, 12 October 2014

Tell me, are you living in the present? Or are you too busy with your head in the future?

When was the last time that you just did something? When you didn't think, you didn't sit and look at all of the angles and try and work out what could happen? Hell, as I write this I am letting the words just flow- I have no idea where it's headed but I'm going for it. Why? Because how many times have you stopped yourself from doing something because you were overthinking it?


Evidence of my spontaneity (please excuse the scruffy handwriting)


I admit, I am awful when it comes to overthinking yet it hit me the other day, inspiring me to grab the nearest sticky note and get it down.


When we are spending so much time (and energy) focussing on the future, what does that mean for our present?


What are we missing when we are trying to meticulously plan the right course of action or what we should do in the future? We're missing time with our family. We are missing time with our friends. Instead of being in that moment there with them, ours minds are elsewhere thinking of what we should be doing.


Precious time that could be spent with those dear to us, who at any time could leave our lives, is wasted and all because we're too preoccupied with making sure that a moment or a decision that we have yet to experience is perfect.


We spend so much time focussing on planning the future to perfection- too scared to make a mistake- that we miss out on the fleeting moments that come into our lives.


Now, I'm not saying not to plan for the future at all! It is important to think things through sometimes but when overanalysing each little thing means missing out on the here and now it really isn't worth it, especially when more often than not those plans that we try to make for the future don't go the way we plan.


Sometimes, the best way to make the most of your future and avoid any mistakes or regrets is to make the most of the present. Why? Because it is the memories that you make in the present, it is the memories that you make when you just go for things- when you just give it a go and see what happens- that you tend to look back on fondly or with a lesson learnt.


These moments aren't made from overthinking or calculating each move before it's made.


They're made by just willing to be there and taking it all in.